Remember Your Intuition

Lately I’ve been wondering why women do not listen to their intuition more often. And let me specify by saying that I feel that we often ignore the intuition we get from our romantic relationships. I have found that a woman will look the other way when it comes to a flaw in a relationship or a marriage, but she will trust her gut should there be any inkling of wrongdoing when it comes to her child or a female friend.

What IS that about?

Is it because we strive so hard to see the good in people? Is it because, like old adage goes, "Ignorance is bliss?"

What is it?

I know men who cheat on their spouses, repeatedly, and yet they are married. And forgive me, my male audience, but they are not exactly smooth when it comes to their infidelity tactics, so I KNOW the wives know, and yet, heads are turned and the skeleton remains in the closet.

Why?

I myself am guilty of this behavior. My last relationship, the love of my life, well, he cheated. I had my suspicions and yet I swept them under the rug.  I too looked the other way, although, it has been nearly impossible to look away from the pictures that were recently brought to my attention. It actually made me physically ill to see my worst nightmare come true. I for one, carry pain like that around for a while, for when you love, truly and completely, well, it makes the lies that much worse. A picture says a thousand words doesn't it? And it seems as if every time you torture yourself by looking at it, it says a thousand more.  You look inward, and say, what did I do wrong? How did this happen? What does she have that I don’t? How did I not see this? Yet, when one is cheated on, these are not the questions to be asking. And yes, there is such a thing as emotionally cheating, I mean, that's what leads to affairs, isn't it?

I hope my readers will remember this the next time they feel that pit in their stomach. I can only hope that it will spare them the heartache that so many of us, including myself, have felt. Betrayal is a terrible feeling, and I would not wish that on any of you.

Remember that your intuition is there for a reason. Remember that some people, no matter how good you think they are, are really wolves in sheep’s clothing. Remember that you are stronger and wiser than you think, and those that perpetually take that for granted should be forever in your past.

Megan Minutillo is an English and theater teacher on Long Island, NY. When she is not teaching, she can be found directing in various theaters and schools, most recently for the Young American Writers Project at Stony brook Southampton. Megan obtained her B.A. at Binghamton University, and received her M.A. in Educational Theater and English Education at NYU. Her newest project, The Write Teacher, combines her love of writing, theater, literature, and education. The Write Teacher is a blog that reviews literature and theater for an extensive audience, stemming from adolescents to mothers of the latter, and everyone in between.